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if you’re reading this we’re now in a relationship love you babe

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 00:53:22 -0400

if you’re reading this we’re now in a relationship love you babe

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theurbanfoxwatcher: Managed to get some shots of the mother...

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 04:00:38 -0400

theurbanfoxwatcher:

Managed to get some shots of the mother vixen this afternoon.

I knew she was about before I even reached the cemetery as the crows were making such a racket. Sure enough, she was trying to relax near the den site, but the crows got so much she ended up going into the brambles to hide. The cubs were sensibly hiding at this point as crows are dangerous and can kill cubs.

These were taken from quite a distance away so the quality isn’t the best, but you can see she’s a lovely looking vixen, with a beautiful dark coat.

theurbanfoxwatcher: After the crows got bored and left the cubs...

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 04:00:27 -0400

theurbanfoxwatcher:

After the crows got bored and left the cubs came out to play!

Seems there’s definitely only two of them, and this is the bigger one who I think is probably male. He’s barely recognizable from that little ball of brown fur I photographed a month ago.

theurbanfoxwatcher: And the adorable little runt cub. She (I...

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 04:00:20 -0400

theurbanfoxwatcher:

And the adorable little runt cub.

She (I believe) is the more cautious and alert one, so it’s harder to get photos of her. They are also located in an area that’s completely screened in with nowhere to hide and take photos, which makes it doubly challenging!

In a few weeks time they should start becoming more adventurous and exploring further afield so hopefully they should be easier to photograph then.

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Sat, 01 Jun 2013 03:58:18 -0400

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 03:19:46 -0400

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys':

ozziescribbler:

ami-angelwings:

gettingahealthybody:

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!”

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement

This is so brilliant. We learn things from socialization process. What our parents, friends and peers do, media and all. I think perhaps rape is because parents think boys will be boys, they bully, fight and destroy things, it’s their characteristics so they don’t bother to stop them. But it manifests in them, knowing or unknowingly, they will just think, because I’m a boy and boys tend to do these, so it doesn’t matter even if the girl hates it, says no, because I’m a boy.

Just reblog this, this message is really powerful. For parents and future parents.

What’s also interesting, is if you frame this as about spoiling your children, and about spoiled children, people tend to agree and get it. They’ll agree that children whose parents lay down no boundaries for them when they hurt others, who let them have whatever they want at the expense of others, and justify away the harm they do, will probably grow up thinking they can do this to others (usually weaker than them, or they perceive as weaker) as adults. But if you mention the word “privilege”, “entitlement” or anything relating to gender, everybody freaks the f- out and will deny up, down, back, forth, and sideways that how you raise a child, what you allow them to get away with, or training them that their hurtful behaviour will always be justified, can affect them at all.

ALL OF THIS.

Obligatry read FOR EVERYONE

kmbrother: slimewizard: never not reblog I wanna be Finnish...

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 02:07:56 -0400

kmbrother:

slimewizard:

never not reblog

I wanna be Finnish now.

satanic-homosexual: Ive been waiting for photo set for like...

Sat, 01 Jun 2013 02:05:14 -0400

satanic-homosexual:

Ive been waiting for photo set for like 6483 years

asavageart: Fox N The City are awesome guys that decided to...

Fri, 31 May 2013 14:36:34 -0400

asavageart:

Fox N The City are awesome guys that decided to help the urban foxes by healing them from mange and spreading knowledge about them; they are not a big association, they are people like you and me who decided to do their part. They are the kind of superheroes I really like.
I gifted them an artwork of mine to help raise some funds.
The original is sold already, but you can still purchase the A4 prints and the bookmarks!

Links!
http://www.foxnthecity.com/shop/shop/bookmark-by-alice-savage-for-foxnthecity/

http://www.foxnthecity.com/shop/shop/print-of-artwork-by-alice-savage-for-foxnthecity/

wildlingoreiad: crying tears of jealousy

Tue, 28 May 2013 05:38:32 -0400

wildlingoreiad:

*crying tears of jealousy*

staybeautifulhun: themadfangirl: kieradoe: whatsortofamandoesn...

Tue, 28 May 2013 05:36:41 -0400

staybeautifulhun:

themadfangirl:

kieradoe:

whatsortofamandoesntcarryatrowel:

Dad: Why do you think they do that?
Girl: Because the companies who make these try to trick the girls into buying the pink stuff instead of stuff boys want to buy. [x]

that awkward moment when a child understands the harm of forcing gender roles better than most grown male politicians.

Always reblog.

I’m surprised that I haven’t reblogged this, to be honest.

I love that last gif. She looks so frustrated. Like “Um, hello, obviously girls and boys can like anything why doesn’t anybody get that???”

One time I told my mom I wanted to get Pokemon cards and she told me they were for boys.

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Sun, 26 May 2013 18:59:53 -0400

tentaclesandteacups: thedoppelganger: Rick Owens’ Paris Home,...

Sun, 26 May 2013 18:58:17 -0400

tentaclesandteacups:

thedoppelganger:

Rick Owens’ Paris Home, ph. François Halard, Wall Street Journal, Sunday, April 21, 2013

Uuunnnnggghhhh.

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Sat, 25 May 2013 12:15:38 -0400

iamtonysexual: jonandtheon: jonandtheon: jonandtheon: MY BOOK IS LOCKED IN A CLASSROOMN RED...

Sat, 25 May 2013 12:14:54 -0400

iamtonysexual:

jonandtheon:

jonandtheon:

jonandtheon:

MY BOOK IS LOCKED IN A CLASSROOMN

RED ASLERT

I TOLD THIS REALLY NICE KID WHO NEVER CAUSES TROUBLE AND HEREACHED INTO HIS BACKPACK AND PULLED OUT A KEYCHAIN WITH KEYS TO THE CLASSROOM AND UNLOCKED IT FOR ME??

update i asked him why he had those keys and he said “its not important” im so lost

He’ll be vital to your quest later, don’t forget about him.

taeyeon-9muses-rilakkuma-ohyeah: Clever way of getting his...

Sat, 25 May 2013 12:14:09 -0400

taeyeon-9muses-rilakkuma-ohyeah:

Clever way of getting his features in there

cr: thqys

theurbanfoxwatcher: Can you spot both the fox and the crow in...

Thu, 23 May 2013 00:09:41 -0400

theurbanfoxwatcher:

Can you spot both the fox and the crow in this photo?

Crows are the fox watchers best friend. They regularly alert me to the location of a fox, and as soon as I heard this one (in the tree on the left) calling I knew it had found one, (this time it was Black-Throat.)

So, how do you tell if a crow has found a fox? When crows see foxes they make a furious, constant cawing. They also tend to perch very low to the ground and constantly stare at the spot where the fox is. Next time I’ll see if I can get a video of it.

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Thu, 23 May 2013 00:09:26 -0400